A friend of mine told me that when she was just a kid, she used to be a daddy's little girl. They spent lots of time with each other compared with her siblings. But when she was about eight, her father left without knowing where he went. She rebelled against and blamed her mother for the lost of her best friend. It took her along time to forgive both her parents. She was angry and full of hatred. Until such a time that she just decided to forgive them. Still, her father is nowhere to be found. But she realized that she needs to move on.
I was asking her why did she rebelled. She just answered that she loves her father more than anyone else. I tried to do some research about her reason and came across an article entitled "The Perceived Influence of a Father on His Daughter’s Development" written by Caitlin Goossen. This article contains researches and studies of the involvement of a father to a girl's life.
Goossen shared her researches of fathers' role in their daughters' lives, which I tried to analyze to get the factors of a daughter's rebellion over the father's absence:
A Father's Influence and Involvement
This father's role required him to spend lots of time with his daughter. Without this, the girl can be rebellious because of finding someone to be with. A lot of girls cannot handle being lonely.
Long-Term Male Romantic Relationships
Numerous girls have a problem on being an attention-seeker. Without getting the attention wanted, rebellion starts. This problem starts when a father does not pay much attention with his daughter because girls most likely seek attention from the opposite sex.
Views of the Opposite Sex
Absence of a unique perspective from a father is also a factor of a daughter's rebellion because they will not understand men.
Sexuality
Without the father's physical contact can lead to a girl's sexual aggression, which is a form of rebellion. Physical contact is what makes women feel secure.
Body Image
Approvals, supports, praises, etc. from a father can help decrease a girl's insecurities. Fathers should give their fullest support for their daughters because insecurities may lead to rebellion if honors are not achieved.
Social Skills
Without interactions between a father and a daughter can destroy her relationships with others. Interactions with her father can help her easily adapt in different environments.
Academic Goals
The father must be the first one to encourage his daughter. A daughter fails in school then rebels because of not having someone who should motivate her first.
Hidden behind the effects are the factors why girls who haven't had fathers on their side rebel. These factors must be addressed to all the fathers and to those who will become a father so that they will be aware as their daughter grow.
Goossen shared her researches of fathers' role in their daughters' lives, which I tried to analyze to get the factors of a daughter's rebellion over the father's absence:
A Father's Influence and Involvement
This father's role required him to spend lots of time with his daughter. Without this, the girl can be rebellious because of finding someone to be with. A lot of girls cannot handle being lonely.
Long-Term Male Romantic Relationships
Numerous girls have a problem on being an attention-seeker. Without getting the attention wanted, rebellion starts. This problem starts when a father does not pay much attention with his daughter because girls most likely seek attention from the opposite sex.
Views of the Opposite Sex
Absence of a unique perspective from a father is also a factor of a daughter's rebellion because they will not understand men.
Sexuality
Without the father's physical contact can lead to a girl's sexual aggression, which is a form of rebellion. Physical contact is what makes women feel secure.
Body Image
Approvals, supports, praises, etc. from a father can help decrease a girl's insecurities. Fathers should give their fullest support for their daughters because insecurities may lead to rebellion if honors are not achieved.
Social Skills
Without interactions between a father and a daughter can destroy her relationships with others. Interactions with her father can help her easily adapt in different environments.
Academic Goals
The father must be the first one to encourage his daughter. A daughter fails in school then rebels because of not having someone who should motivate her first.
Hidden behind the effects are the factors why girls who haven't had fathers on their side rebel. These factors must be addressed to all the fathers and to those who will become a father so that they will be aware as their daughter grow.
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