
Searching for an article that will against on my previous analysis, I found an article written by Josh McDowall. It was entitled "Rebellious Teen - Underlying Factors and How Parents and Teachers Can Help." This was about factors why teenagers rebel based on studies and observations.
McDowall pointed three causes of teenage rebellion:
1. Rules without relationship leads to rebellion.
As adolescence starts, children want to have freedom from what they used to do and have. These include their parents and others who have authority over those children. Rules themselves won't explain why they were set. Although for the authority, these mean love and protection, the inexperience ones won't see them that way. That is why relationship is important. Relationship is only built by communications. Having communications with children will make them understand the authority's purposes.
2. Violation of personal boundaries.
Based on the article, these personal boundaries include: emotional, physical and relational. The word itself means limitation. When dealing with children, people must know and respect he limitations they have for them. Even though they most likely to be younger than the authority or even strangers, they need to have a keen observation for these things. Crossing those limitations, would mean trespassing and stealing any aspect a child's life
3. Hyper-Controlling parent, teacher or coach.
We all know that no one was made to be a robot but a human. Human has its own brain. A brain that is far greater than a processing unit. This brain functions for us to think and decide. And s child's brain is not exempted for this function. Although innocent and inexperience, that doesn't mean that they should be manipulated. Instead, proper guidance is needed.
These three factors covered a general group of people. It does not focus on the father's role itself. Rather these factors focus on the society or the environment the child has.
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