The Power of a Father's Love

Blessed with a loving father, I took noticed of the children just like me who does not experience any love from their fathers. I felt a certain compassion for those people I know who have the same unusual attitude or behavior because of the same reason, the absence of a father's love. Although   most of them have their mothers, they are much different from the usual teenage girls I observed. Some of them have fathers who may be physically present but emotionally absent. While some does not even have the opportunity to see who their fathers are. 

I came across an article in the internet entitled How absence of a loving father can wreck a child's life: New study shows relationship with both parents is crucial came. This article talks about how much important the father's love is. It discusses how it greatly affects a child's growth as much as or even greater than a mother's love. It also informs about researches on the possible behavior of children who haven't experience father's love can acquire.

As Fiona Macrae quoted what researcher Professor Ronald Rohner said, "In the US, Great Britain and Europe, we have assumed for the past 300 years that all children need for normal healthy development is a loving relationship with their mother. And that dads are there as support for the mother and to support the family financially but are not required for the healthy development of the children. But that belief is fundamentally wrong. We have to start getting away from that idea and realize the dad’s influence is as great, and sometimes greater, than the mother’s."

I agree with the new idea of Professor Ronald Rohner. As children,  were conceived because of both parents, they must also be taken care by both parents. Not because the mother is the one who carried them for nine months means they are the ones who need to give more love. But fathers also need to give as much or more love than what mothers can give. 

Professor Ronald Rohner added "Children who feel unloved tend to become  anxious and insecure, and this can make them needy. Anger and resentment can lead to them closing themselves off emotionally in an attempt to protect themselves from further hurt."

Being unloved either by the father or mother has no differences. This means that both of them   contributes to what will the child's behavior be. What determines children's attitude is how both  parents have played their roles.

From this article, it can be clearly understood that one cannot disqualify either of the mother or father's love because both are very crucial to their children's lives. The roles of both parents need to be mutual with their children. Fathers, like the mothers are not just there to give material needs but also a deeper relationship with their children. Their children must not only see their father working but also experience their father's embrace.